Recently I published a post about change and how dang difficult it can be to deal with change. Hard, and at the same time necessary. But no matter how necessary, someone who has the flexibility of a dried piece of concrete will find that hard to accept. How does someone with an aversion to change deal with said change? I’m going to speak only from my own experience. But, seeing as lately I’ve had to deal with plenty of change, I think I can say a thing or two about it. Here are five tips to deal with change when you’re a change-hater. (How many times can one person use the word change?)
Time for another millennial problem. This time it’s about the fear of standing still. A friend of mine pointed out this ‘ailment’ we millennials are dealing with. In Dutch, it actually has a word (thaasofobie), but I don’t know if it does in English? Anyway, the fear of standing still, or the fear of being bored. Do you recognize this? They say that it is one of our many ailments, next to the fear of making the wrong choice and the fear of commitment. A problem I would like to refute, because I don’t recognize this AT ALL.
Looking back at your past and getting stuck because of it. Does that ever happen to you? When I think back to all the things that happened in my life (not as exciting as it sounds), I am finally noticing it: I don’t do it anymore. Finally. Yes, I can think ‘ah yes, it was like that’, but without feeling, without hate, without sadness. I don’t regret anything, I don’t hold a grudge because whatever happened in my life has made me who I am today.
Yes, I’m back! And I’m going to stay in a summery mood for this one. Now we’re here anyway. It’s almost July, you guys. How fast can the time go? Sometimes I can barely keep up. Especially now with everything that’s going on, I feel like time could slow down a little. You know, just for a month. So I can take care of everything and be done with it. But well, only three small weeks to go and I’m in Spain! One full week of complete relaxation. I don’t even have to worry about sweet little Buttons, because she’ll be staying with one of my brothers. Sleepover party! With this holiday coming up, my mind is on full speed making lists of books I want to read on the beach, the music I need to put on my mp3 player (is that still a thing?) and the things I need to make time for to think about. Here it goes!
I don’t have methods for dealing with stress. I don’t have remedies, strategies, no life-saving potions. Often I just go where life takes me. And the works for me, most of the time. In stressful periods I get a little stuck. I actually am able to relax for about an hour when I read a book or watch a movie or tv show, but that’s only temporary. When I feel like the stressful feeling isn’t going away after a while, I have to take the bull by the horns and solve that thing that’s been bothering me. Or at least, as far as I can. You’ve probably read plenty of articles about how to deal with stress, so I’m not going to tell you how to do that. I wouldn’t even know how to (I should probably read those articles too). But I thought it would be nice to turn things around for a change and write about how to NOT deal with stress. I hope you recognize this a little. Not because it would be fun for you because it won’t. But this way we can be stressy stress stressers together. You know.
When I published my last article, I realized that it wasn’t the most positive I’ve ever been. I’m a positive girl, but sometimes you just can’t. Sometimes it’s impossible to see the good in things, however small your problems may be. No, it wasn’t that bad. No, it wasn’t that negative. But still, I felt a little bit sad about it. By accident, I found this TAG on a Dutch girl’s blog, TAG Project Positive. So, to change things up a little here’s an awesomely positive TAG. Fun and good questions to think about.
Yay, our summer holiday is almost here! I hope you all have the chance to get out and really celebrate summer. This year we wanted to go on a two-week vacation. One week to my family in law in Galicia and the other to Gran Canaria. But there are some changes coming up, so we have to dial it back to one week. The thing is, we’re moving. And as much as I need a good long holiday, we need to move first. I’m a little stressed because we had to hurry up with finding a house. And because this move is time-consuming, I will dial it a down a little here on A Pinch of Jo. Let’s call it a summer planning.
Since about a year I’ve been trying to learn a new language. Spanish to be exact. Someday when we live in Spain, I have to be able to talk to the people there and especially with my family in law. And right now, I really suck at it. It feels so strange to me that I’m not able to do this because I love languages. Dutch, English, French, and German (ok French a little less) were my favorite subjects in school. Just because I was good at them. And now? I can’t. It’s so bad that I’ve even wasted 40 euro’s per month on a course for six months because I wasn’t able to finish it. So, time is ticking and I have to pick it back up again. Because Rome wasn’t built in a day and sayings like that. How am I going to handle this?
We millennials tend to not know what we want. And we love complaining about that too. That’s ok, but it is keeping us from becoming who we want to be. Or even starting the search. But sometimes, and only sometimes, we do know what we want and we’re willing to work hard to get what we want. But how do you actually get there? Now, I’m no specialist in this matter, but I do know that working hard alone doesn’t get you where you need te be. I mean, I do believe that this will definitely get you far, but it’s not everything. It’s an attitude adjustment you have to make to really get to where you want to be. Right?